Be grateful to your lovers

Human nature has negative bias. We tend to focus on what is not working. We vividly remember and complain of our failures in relationship instead of counting our blessings. We also tend to take for granted the good things we have in our relationships. We expect certain things and when they are done, we simply see them as what are supposed to be done anyway by our lovers. Fact however is, if you ever expected to have a happy relationship, you should for each day show gratitude, being thankful for and ready to return, kindness, wanting the best for your lover. The power of gratitude Whatever you focus on expands in your mind and becomes your life experience. If you focus, on the weaknesses and failures in your lover you never have enough or see anything good in your lover and relationship. On another hand, if you focus on the good things of your lover and become thankful, you create success and more of it. . Gratitude improves your health because it reduces blood pressure, gives better sleep and happier mood. When you feel grateful you feel motivated, calm, energetic and content. Grateful lovers are more optimistic and build intimacy because gratitude stimulates attraction. It is also known that gratitude leads to other virtues such as laughter, fun, compassion and mercy which make you to commit better to each other. A mindset of gratitude is therefore, a powerful tool to enrich your relationship. Start with yourself. Cultivate a sense of gratitude. Feel good about yourself and always focus on the good qualities in you. It is only when you savor positive expression of yourself that you can show gratitude to others. Feel good about good things you do and when your lover says or does something good for you. Accept your lover just as he or she is. Let him or her be himself or herself. Focus each day on the good things your lover has or does, no matter how small they may appear to be. As you reflect .on them, they expand in your mind. Express your gratitude each day in ways which are meaningful to both. It may be direct by your kind words of gratitude. Simple ways like “you are so good to me, I am happy I found you, you have made the difference in my life, you are the best thing that ever happened to me, you are always there for me, I love you and thank you" will melt your lover's heart and motivate him or her to do more. You may express your gratitude indirectly by your kind acts. Go out of your way to help your lover. Make all the sacrifices you can to help him or her improve his areas of weakness. You can't force your lover to change but as you keep loving him, he gets motivated to improve himself. Send gifts often. Gifts are expressions of your love. It creates goodwill and dispels hurts. Let your gifts be regular and simple. Send what is meaningful to your lover. Be romantic in all you do. Give your time and attention as you share activities you enjoy. Put fun and excitement into your relationship. Accept your Iover wholeheartedly no matter what and always thank him or her for everything he does which you may be tempted to see as expected or normal be they cooking, cleaning, shopping, repairing and care of kids and time together. Let your partner know you are grateful for all he or she does. An expression of gratitude will lead to a more healthy behavior of your lover and therefore improve your relationship. Gratitude allows celebration of the present and buffers against negative emotions. The more grateful you are, the stronger you relationship. If gratitude is so crucial to the health of your relationship, use some of the 86,400 seconds you have each day to show your gratitude to your lover. Johannes Gaerthner says to live gratitude is to touch heaven. St Ignatius of Loyal sees lack of gratitude as the only real sin. Be grateful for your lover each day.

Guard 'cleaned up' after Michael Jackson drug death

Michael Jackson

A bodyguard to Michael Jackson has testified the singer's doctor ordered him to clean up medical paraphernalia in the moments after he died.

And a paramedic said Dr Conrad Murray did not mention he had given Jackson propofol, an anaesthetic found to have caused the singer's death.
The testimony came at a preliminary hearing for Dr Murray, who has pleaded not guilty to involuntary manslaughter.
Prosecutors say his negligence led to Jackson's death aged 50 in June 2009.
At the preliminary hearing in a Los Angeles courtroom, a judge is to decide whether prosecutors have enough evidence to try Dr Murray, a cardiologist. It is expected to last several days.
Dr Murray faces up to four years in prison if convicted.
Prosecutors contend Dr Murray's treatment of the singer - including administering several doses of sedatives and a dose of propofol in the hours before he died - deviated from medical practice sufficiently to constitute a crime.
They also say Dr Murray improperly concealed his use of propofol, a surgical anaesthetic typically used in a clinical setting.

Facebook investment 'values firm at $50bn'

Facebook's billionaire founder Mark Zuckerberg 

Facebook has reportedly raised funds from Goldman Sachs and a Russian investor in a deal valuing the social networking site at $50bn (£32.3bn).

The New York Times said that Goldman was investing $450m in Facebook, and Digital Sky Technologies another $50m.

The paper, citing unnamed sources, said the terms of the deal implied a value for Facebook of just over $50bn.

Goldman's involvement could also raise speculation that Facebook might float on the stock market.

The Financial Times also reported that Goldman was investing $375m in Facebook, with Digital Sky putting in $75m.

A Facebook spokeswoman told the BBC that the company was not commenting on the New York Times story. Goldman also declined to comment.

If valued at $50bn, Facebook is worth more than eBay and Time Warner.

The fresh investment is expected to be used to fund development of new products and possibly make acquisitions, the New York Times said.

It may also enable Facebook employees and early investors to cash in some of their stakes.

The paper said the Securities and Exchange Commission (SEC) was looking at the growth in the private market for trading in companies like Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

Regulators are concerned that, with this private market booming, companies are able to circumvent public disclosure requirements.

Further scrutiny by the SEC could help push Facebook towards a public listing, although the company's founder, Mark Zuckerberg, has denied there are plans for a flotation.

TEMPTATION

·         People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many irrational and detrimental desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction …..

·         Temptation also makes a way to escape that ye may be able to bear it ….

·         Every man is tempted when he is drawn away of his lust and enticed …..

·         Temptation is the pull of a man’s own thoughts and wishes…

·         Watch and pray that ye enter into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing but flesh is week….

·         When lust hath conceived. Temptation brings forth sin: and sin: when it is finished bring forth death.

·         The first step toward avoiding temptation is recognizing our human tendency to be tempted by our own fleshly desires

·         Temptation is a given, so don’t be surprised by it Rather expect to be tempted. Be prepared for it…

·         Those who flee temptation generally leave a forwarding address…

·         How often have you been tempted to sin when your heart and mind were fully concentrated on worship of the lord?

·         When you are face to face with temptation, look for the way out that God has promised and then run as fast as you can…

·         You may not be strong enough to resist Temptation on your own, but as you focus on God, he will inhabit your praise. He will give you the strength to resist and walk away from the temptation.

·         There are several good protections against temptation but the surest is cowardice…

·         The devil tempts us not. But we tempt him reckoning his skills with opportunities.